When life handed me a Canadian Husband, Two Energetic Kids and a Dog with ADHD,
I made myself some Organized Chaos!

Friday, December 21, 2012

The Odd Life of Timothy Green



Just got done watching the Odd Life of Timothy Green with the boys!  We got all camped out and watched it.  I really loved it and know the boys do to!

Lessons from this movie:

1. Know your purpose, understand it and do it.  Timothy had a few purposes.  I don't want to spoil the movie so all I will say is he embarrassed it and you followed through with that purpose.

2.  Believe in yourself and others.  Don't sell yourself or someone else short.  Believe!

3.  Be generous with your gifts, time and love.  Be a positive influence on all those around you.  God has blessed you with these gifts, share them with others.

4.  Never hesitate to bring love, joy and smiles to those around you and those you love.  These opportunities are PRICELESS!!

5.  Never give up.   Not on yourself or on anyone else.  Things might not be going you way but keeping your chin up and going head on is not only an amazing example for your children but what God would expect.

6.  Be a CHILD.  Embrace it.  Don't take life so serious.  Dance in the rain.  Sleep in the living room with your kids.  Get dirty in the backyard.  LAUGH!  SING!  DANCE!

7.  Don't let the outside appearances fool you.  Learn what the insides are saying.  A large gorgeous house on the outside is BEAUTIFUL but when you go inside and it is quiet, no memories, and sad then your opinion changes.  But a home that is small or old and you walk in and feel the love then your opinion changes.  Learn what is inside someone!!

8.  LOVE LOVE LOVE ....Those people may only be here for one season!

9.  Also in this movie there was judging not only of others but of themselves.  This is something we see all the time in our lives or feel in our lives.  When we compare ourselves to others or compare our family to others we rub that off on our children. We allow them and teach them to compare themselves and their family.  This horrible cycle never stops.


This was a great movie, with so many lessons for the boys and myself.

Have you seen the movie?  What are your thoughts?      



Thursday, December 20, 2012

Are your kids Responsible?


I was looking on Pinterst and saw this picture above.  I laughed and have a confession.  I always had the attitude to just do it myself and it will get done right the first time! This last month....yes, my kids are 10 and 6, I am trying to give them more responsibility.  

Here is my confessions...

1.   I always make the kids lunches.  
    • TanMan just made his lunch last week.  Man he acted clueless but he did it and I think he felt good about it.  
2.   I or my hubby always does the dishes.  Kids have no part in it.  
    • I am now making one child dry and one put it away. 
3.   I put my kids clothes out for the whole week.  
    • On Sundays they lay out their clothes for a week.  I go over with them after it is all laid out on their bed.             
4.   I put all the laundry away.
    • I make them put their own clothes away now.  
5.   I hover over homework.  
    • I realized this was not helping my kids with responsibility   TanMan has had some big bumps in the road but he is learning to take responsibility for his work.  I am not going to be able to stand over the boys when they go to college and make sure their work is done all the time.  I still guide them but I try not to hover.  

OK....There is my confession.  It is hard to give a little and teach your kids life skills. I have the mind frame I am their mom and I should do it but what am I teaching them?  

But I do teach them....

1.  Cleaning
    • We have two standards in our house.  1 is Mommy Clean and 2 is Daddy Clean.  When I tell the boys we are going to clean they always ask which one.  LOL...I know that it sounds goofy but Mommy Clean is a lot more clean then Daddy!!  :)  
2.   Sorting Laundry
    • I do make the kids sort the laundry. Whites/Darks/Towels/Gentle
3.   Garbage
    • This is something the kind of did all the time but recently we make them collect all the garbage and then put it by the curb.  
4.  Cooking
    • We try to teach our boys cooking skills.  I was never taught to cook and had to learn when I became a mom.  
5.   Poop Scooping!  
    • Probably their favorite!  LOL  Ok...maybe not their favorite!
These life skills are something we need to teach our kids.  The younger they are the more they grow into those responsibilities and the easier they become for them so when they are adults they will become just as east as tying their shoes.  


I looked up online what age appropriate chores are.  Here is what I found out on www.chores-help-kids.com.



Some chores 2-4 year olds can do


Many toddlers are eager to help with chores, and while their “helping” may not always be truly helpful, we should encourage that excitement and the habit of helping out around the household.

  • Help make the bed
  • Put dishes in the sink (Plastic!)
  • Pick up toys and books
  • Take laundry to the laundry room
  • Help feed pets
  • Help wipe up messes
  • Dust with socks on their hands
  • Mop in areas with help.
  • Use potty
  • Brush teeth
  • Floss teeth (with help and a flosser)
  • Water garden (with pre measured water)
  • Pick up toys at the end of day

Chores for 4 - 6 year olds

Four, five and six year olds still find helping to be an exciting venture and usually are happy to try and help. At this age, they are ready to do some chores without constant supervision. Rewards at this age are very motivating.

  • Clear and set the table
  • Dust
  • Help preparing food to cook?Carrying and putting away groceries
  • Use bathroom
  • Wash hands
  • Brush teeth
  • Floss Teeth (with flosser)
  • Water garden
  • Pick up toys
  • Feed pet
  • Make bed/change sheets (start with having him/her take off the dirty sheets and hand you the clean ones )
  • Set table
  • Carry dirty dishes to kitchen or sink
  • Put away folded clean clothes
  • Put dirty clothes into clothes hamper
  • Set out clothes for the next day
  • Set out backpack, shoes etc (whatever is needed for school)
  • Clean room (have him/her help with picking up things and putting them in their appropriate place)

Chores for the 7-12 year old

Increasing Responsibility
Children in this preteen age are capable of handling increased responsibility where chores are concerned. Often children this age rely on continuity, so try and stick to a system that works for your family and do not change it without the input and support of the people it directly affects. Make sure that you factor in rewards and consequences and address those issues with your children. Let them know the consequences of not completing chores, as well as the rewards for fulfilling their responsibilities.

  • Help wash the car
  • Learn to wash dishes
  • Help prepare simple meals
  • Clip Coupons
  • Basic meal planning
  • Type / Write Grocery list
  • Help with shopping
  • Clean the bathroom
  • Plant garden flowers/vegetables/plants
  • Walk the dog
  • Pick up dog poop
  • Change the litter box
  • Bring in firewood
  • Rake leaves
  • Operate the washer and dryer
  • Clean and Organize the Cabinets or Storage Closet
  • Organize the video/CD collection
  • Vacuum the car
  • File papers

Chores for Teens

The idea of chores for teens may be seem an implausible concept to many people who have been trying to get their teen child to contribute to the household. But teenagers are definitely ready to handle almost any chore in the home and we need to insist that they begin helping. However, a teenager’s schedule can sometimes become quite hectic, leaving little time for chores. Make sure that the workload of your teenagers is manageable and make sure they are not overloaded in other areas when they should actually be helping out more around the house.

  • Check and replace light bulbs
  • Check and replace vacuum cleaner bags
  • All laundry
  • Wash windows
  • Clean out refrigerator and other kitchen appliances
  • Prepare meals
  • Prepare grocery lists
  • Change the oil in the car
  • Mow the grass
  • Till the garden
  • Edge the lawn
  • Trim the trees/shrubs
  • Deliver meals to those in need
  • Babysit younger siblings
  • Split wood
  • Clean out fireplace
  • Clean gutters
  • Fertilize lawn/garden
  • Give mom/dad a back rub!
  • Bathe younger siblings

What chores do your kids have??

Friday, December 14, 2012

Why?


Why?  Why does these horrible things happen to innocent people/good people?  My husband asks me that and I try to explain and I pray for Gods words to flow out of my mouth but sometimes we just don't know.  But this is some of my thoughts and findings.  

Trust in the Lord with all your heartand lean not on your own understanding;

in all your ways submit to him,
    and he will make your paths straight.
Proverbs 3:5-6

1.  Free Will- God wants our love.  If we have a choice to love him and to serve him but that also means we have a choice to not love or serve him.  If He didn't give us free will then we would be just robots.  As we know God gave Adam and Eve a perfect life with one rule.  As that rule was broken sin invaded our lives. 

But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you,
then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve,
whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates,
or the gods of the Amorites,
in whose land you are living.
But as for me and my household,
 we will serve the Lord.”
Joshua 24:15

2. So God will be glorified
 “Neither this man nor his parents sinned,” said Jesus,“but this happened so that the works of God might be displayed in him.
John 9:3

3. God is shaping us.  He wants to use us.   In the face of darkness is when our light can shine bright.  


Be alert and of sober mind.
Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

Resist him, standing firm in the faith,
 because you know that the family of believers throughout the world
is undergoing the same kind of sufferings.

And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ,
after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong,
 firm and steadfast.
1 Peter 5:8-10

4.  Sometimes are suffering is our own faults.  (Standing in front of moving car results in being hit by car)

Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction;
whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.
Galatians 6:8

5.  Sometimes suffering is just one of those mysteries.  We will NEVER know why this is happening.

“As the heavens are higher than the earth,
    so are my ways higher than your ways
    and my thoughts than your thoughts.
Isaiah 55:9

6.   God Did NOT create evil and suffering.  This goes back to free will.  God made the heavens and the earth.  He made a perfect love.  He wanted to create humans to experience that perfect love.  In order for that to happen he had to create free will to choose the love or not.  Sadly humans have abused the free will and walked away from our Maker.  

7.  Couldn't he foresee this happening.  I found this answer to be GREAT!!

"'Couldn't God have foreseen all of this?" and no doubt he did. But look at it this way. Many of you are parents. Even before you had children, couldn't you foresee that there was the very real possibility they may suffer disappointment or pain or heartache in life, or that they might even hurt you and walk away from you? Of course—but you still had kids. Why? Because you knew there was also the potential for tremendous joy and deep love and great meaning." by Lee Strobal



In the end, I have NO IDEA WHY BAD THINGS HAPPEN. But I do know God knows how many hairs are on my head, how many freckles I have and how many days I will be on this earth.  We can not control that number but we can live our lives to the fullest, with hope, with love, with the light God wants us to shine.  



Tuesday, December 11, 2012

First Two Chapters of the Lysa TerKeurst Book


I just wanted to share my notes from Chapters 1 and 2.  This book is great and I wanted you all to see what great things you will learn, be reminded of and refreshed!  


Chapter 1- Who are these people calling me mom? 
Oh how I have had moments like Lysa described at a store and things just go wrong!  Feeling as though everyone is judging my actions and my kids’ actions.  How the walls seem to be falling in and I can’t seem to get out.  I have put a cartoon on the TV for the kids and gone in my room face in my bed pleading for help.  It is a comfort to read or hear other mom’s deal with the same situations.  To feel that I am not alone is a comfort. 

On page 11 Lysa writes:

I have discovered that if I can change the way I think about something, I can change the way I react to it.  If I change the way I react, I can change the way I define myself as a mother.  I don’t have to be defined as one barely hanging on in survival mode.  I can be a mom who thrives and lives and loves the great adventure I’ve be called to. 

That really made me think about how I run my life.  I act a lot of time in survival mode.  Changing my reaction to situations is a way I can get out of that mode.  I really believe this statement was powerful. 
On page 12 Lysa writes:

The morals, values and spiritual disciplines I teach will shape and mold my children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren and others I won’t ever meet. 

WOW…when you look at it that way…seems like a lot of pressure.  I read that sentence a few times and then I realized it is only a lot of pressure if I do it by myself.  I (we) have an amazing God that doesn’t want us to do this alone.  He wants to be our guide and our strong hand to hold.  For that I am grateful and I am so ready to make that impact on my children, others and future generations. 

I love in the refresh my soul section on page 15 Lysa says:

Don’t expect instant gratification—that is not the way He works. 

That is a great reminder.  I am an instant gratification kind of girl.  I like things done NOW!  Well, as you may have guessed I have a lot of disappointments in life.  



Chapter 2- I am the Worst Mom Ever 

Oh how this chapter has talked to me.  That moment you speak out of stress or anger and then you have to swallow your pride and tell your child or spouse “Sorry”.   I don’t know about you ladies but telling them I am sorry hurts the pride.  I do have to admit saying sorry to my children or spouse when I have spoken wrong is that just started a few years ago.  I always had the thought before that I don’t have to apologize to a child.  But the more I dug into the bible and the more God placed that on my heart the more I realized just because they are your child that does not excuse me or give me a free pass to address my wrong doings. 
Now where I was impressed was she told her friend.  I don’t like to tell others about my wrong doings. But because she did she received the best advice.  Look on page 19.

“Stop letting Satan get the best of you and ask God to give you a new attitude.”

God spoke through her friend and brought perspective to her situation.  I think that is amazing and that statement is going to be something I remember when I feel like I am loosing it. 
The next statement she made that stuck out to me was on page 20.

“I was letting my to-do-list overflow while withholding my time with the Lord.”

I do that all the time.  I do that because I feel like if I don’t finish my to-do –list then I have failed or others will judge me because my list isn’t done.  When there is nothing more important than my one on one time with God.  Putting Him on the back burner is not the way I want my kids to learn to live their lives.  The to-do-list will be there and the chances of you actually going to be able to check everything off are slim.  J  So instead of investing time into an earthly checklist we need to invest in a forever God!  This is something I really need to work on. 

Look on page 20 where she says:

“The flood of demands will consume us if we don’t take the time to let God right our perspective, reduce our stress level, and whisper His tender truths of love in our ear.”

This is so true. Demands for moms can easily consume us.   I am so grateful we have a God that will guide us to His love and peace. 

Sunday, December 9, 2012

20 things a mom should tell her son...


I saw them this on a friends Facebook page and had to share it with everyone.  I don't know who was the original writer but all props to whomever that is!




1. Play a sport. It will teach you how to win honorably, lose gracefully, respect authority, 
work with others, manage your time and stay out of trouble. And maybe even throw or catch.

2. You will set the tone for the sexual relationship, so don't take something away from her that you can't give back.

3. Use careful aim when you pee. Somebody's got to clean that up, you know.

4. Save money when you're young because you're going to need it someday.

5. Allow me to introduce you to the dishwasher, oven, washing machine, iron, vacuum, mop and broom. Now please go use them.

6. Pray and be a spiritual leader.

7. Don't ever be a bully and don't ever start a fight, but if some idiot clocks you, please defend yourself.

8. Your knowledge and education is something that nobody can take away from you.

9. Treat women kindly. Forever is a long time to live alone and it's even longer to live with somebody who hates your guts.

10. Take pride in your appearance.

11. Be strong and tender at the same time.

12. A woman can do everything that you can do. This includes her having a successful career and you changing diapers at 3 A.M. Mutual respect is the key to a good relationship.

13. "Yes ma'am" and "yes sir" still go a long way.

14. The reason that they're called "private parts" is because they're "private". Please do not scratch them in public.

15. Peer pressure is a scary thing. Be a good leader and others will follow.

16. Bringing her flowers for no reason is always a good idea.

17. It is better to be kind than to be right.

18. A sense of humor goes a long way in the healing process.

19. Please choose your spouse wisely. My daughter-in-law will be the gatekeeper for me spending time with you and my grandchildren.

20. Remember to call your mother because I might be missing you.

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

The Bathtub is Overflowing but Why Do I Feel Drained?


I am so excited about the new No More Perfect Mommies in Hudson or Anywhere Else. 

I have talked to several mommies and I am still ironing out a few details but we are starting our first book online together!  “The Bathtub is Overflowing but why do I feel drained” by Lysa TerKeurst

If you want to check it out and participate with us and our online discussions just join the facebook page and then RSVP on our events page.  I have read the first few chapters and I am so excited to be able to start discussions and learn more about each of the Mom’s participating in this book.  Remember this is online and all the extra information in on the page under forums.  Make sure you RSVP because I am going to make all discussions private so we feel open and conformable talking about everyday mommy hardships and moments that bring us tears of happiness and joy!

Let me know if you have any questions or comments!  Can’t wait to get started on this new journey!!